Affordable Christmas Gifts for Parents from Santa Claus and Brooke Astor

The son of philanthropist Brooke Astor was accused in an indictment unsealed Tuesday of plundering his mother's $198 million estate and conspiring to have the Alzheimer's-stricken socialite sign a new will leaving her fortune to him.

I guess this shows us that the rich are just like everyone else. Greed is no more a condition of poverty than hunger is a condition of obesity. Humans with a nature to cause harm to their families for their own profit come in all shapes and sizes. Brooke Astor is no more immune to her family's greed than any other elderly woman suffering from the ravages of dementia. Probate, estate taxes and trust issues for the rich are the same as for everyone else - just magnified by the scale of wealth.

A big part of our estate planning process is developing strategies to prevent abuse of the elderly. Using co-fiduciaries, professional trust services and checks and balances built into our documents, we are able to give our clients strong lines of defense. Brooke Astor may have had access to the best lawyers in the United States because of her wealth, but without an understanding of elder law and the dangers of elder abuse, even the best lawyer in Boston cannot imagine the opportunity for fraud within a parent-child relationship. Our experience tells us that the "big firm" lawyers are ill equipped to deal with what is often more social work than legal work.

Our practice is to approach mental health issues in our elderly clients as a multi-disciplinary issue. Working closely with medical providers, financial planners and social workers we craft bespoke plans that respect each individual client's unique personal situation. House, hospital or nursing home calls are commonplace in what we do, how else could we know how our clients live? Ask your downtown Boston lawyer to visit the nursing home on a Saturday morning.

In her day Brooke Astor, was a great philanthropist. In a great twist she will continue to be philanthropic through her own son's misdeeds by giving America an example of greed to the umpteenth degree. For elder law lawyers, Santa Claus could not have brought a more perfect Christmas present for elder parents than the example of the consequences of poor planning. Do your grandparents, parents and self a favor and give the affordable Christmas gift of good estate planning. And, yes, I would be happy to sell you a gift certificate for estate planning!

 

How to Cook an Amazing Easter Turkey Without Being a Turkey to Your Family

I make my Easter turkey a couple of different ways, sometimes, I'll even make two or three smaller birds in different styles. My favorite method for preparing turkey is really the most simple. First, choose a fresh 10-12lb whole turkey, clean it thoroughly. Preheat a three burner gas grill to maximum temperature with a handful of hickory chips wrapped in aluminum foil, (I use a Vermont Castings that I got at Home Depot for this part ).

Mix chopped carrots, celery, onion, fresh sage, fresh ground pepper, a crushed and chopped lemon, a couple cloves of garlic and five tablespoons of sea salt (seriously) together and stuff it into the turkey cavity. Generously slather sea salt, ground pepper, fresh sage and lemon juice all over the skin. Here's the trick. Now, turn the middle burner to the off position and the front and back burners to the lowest possible setting. Place the turkey breast up, close the grill and wait. Whatever you do, don't check on the turkey. Just come back in 2.5 hours. Do not open the lid. Do not open the lid. Do not open the lid. I know you will, so close it quickly - the secret is uninterrupted convection. Don't eat the vegetables inside, just discard them prior to serving.

 

There are two holidays in my estate planning world - Easter and Leap Year Day. Huh? Easter is a holiday based around families coming together to share a meal and in the "Leave it to Beaver" world to think about the good things in life that come from being a family and the re-birth that the season inspires. Since we had Leap Year Day, there is no Easter on my perpetual calendar this year.

Of course, Easter today is as much about Easter baskets, and after Easter sales at the Burlington Mall. Leap Year Day is a big holiday on my perpetual calendar.

LYD (what us insiders call it) is a day every four years that you should take your estate plan and read it. And as you get older, I'd celebrate the last day of February more often. For older clients, I suggest reviewing your estate plan each year at Easter time. So, every four years until you stop buying green bananas!

Death. Money. Who gets the china? I think these are wonderful topics for your Easter Feast. What better time than when you have the whole family together to discuss your estate plan? If you want to review your intended resurrection, I'm all for it - tell your family that you will haunt them. I am a great proponent of talking to your family about your financial affairs and your intent - albeit homogenized for the audience. You may not want your in-laws to be in the room, no problem, give them a Monopoly box and put them in the den. Easter is a good day for board games. Did you ever think that Milton Bradley has a Monopoly on Monopoly?

Be direct with your children. In my experience as an elder law lawyer in Massachusetts, I have learned that frankness wins the day. You can reduce your child's anxiety by giving them straight answers and your clear intent. If you intend to create trusts for your children - tell them so. And don't let your spendthrift child talk you out of protecting him from himself. If need be, call your estate planning lawyer (my cell phone will be on on Easter for just such emergencies) to take the heat. As for health care issues there is nothing better than expressing your wishes to your family. After all, they will be the ones to make decisions about your care when you are no longer able.

It's a time to give thanks for the good things in our lives and to discuss what will happen after our deaths. It's what Jesus would do.

Happy Easter and God Bless.

Estate Planning - Is Your Trustee Trustworthy?

How did wealthy Aunt Sally's bequest of $500,000 a year to help stray cats end up going to The Foundation for the Preservation of Home Brewers after she was gone? She had both a will and a trust explicitly spelling out her wishes that were supposed to be followed in perpetuity.

Stewardship is a lost art. As an estate planning attorney I am charged with preserving my clients' intents through various documents, such as wills, trusts and charitable foundations. I guide clients on selecting experienced, competent and reliable fiduciaries. I follow through to know that my clients' estate planning trusts are funded before death to avoid unnecessary probate administration.

A recent New York Times piece reminds me how important it is for me, an estate planning attorney, to see that my clients' wishes are preserved, not perverted by the corporate greed that pervades the corporate estate and trust administration industry.

The Times article shows how many irrevocable trusts, charitable trusts and private foundations are administered by stingy corporate trust giants more interested in collecting fees than serving the wishes of those no longer here. Why give the money to charities? It will only reduce trust fees.

But that is not even the worst part. According to the Times, the wishes of clients are often changed to reflect the wishes of the administrators. The charities specified in the trusts are replaced by charities chosen by administrators as more appropriate. Generous gifts become less so, or even disappear. Why?

Why indeed. The trust industry in the United States got its big start in Boston over 200 years ago with the First National Bank of Boston in 1784. The bank was chartered to serve the banking needs of ship captains, mainly whalers and Far East Traders.

Often the ships would be gone for over a year at a time while the captains' families stayed behind in Massachusetts. As a result, Boston trust lawyers and trust companies were charged with preserving and protecting the wealth of the merchant fleet. Massachusetts developed a great body of trust law, that to this day is unrivaled in any other state.

Silent among those laws is a clear definition as to what a reasonable action would be by a trustee. Certainly the trustees must act reasonably. But because most estate planning attorneys draft trusts with the broadest of fiduciary powers, theses same discretionary powers are often the tool of self serving corporate trustees. The cure? For one, clear language is a good start. I am a strong advocate among the Massachusetts Bar for clear language in all estate planning documents.

Our law firm is partial to English, as opposed to legaldygook, for all our estate planning documents. If you cannot understand the plain meaning of a document after carefully reading it once, it is not clearly written. Secondly, we are proponents of using co-trustees or trust protectors on all trusts and foundations. In this way, there are checks against outrageous unrestrained abuse of power by trustees as outlined in the Times article.

Last, and most important, we provide for removal of the trustee in all of our trust planning, should that trustee fail to perform fiduciary duties. Provisions are made that such a trustee can be replaced by one willing and able to do the job consistent with the language of the trust and the wishes of the client. 

Estate Planning for Mere Mortals - Become a Super Hero for Your Family

Estate planning is for old people in hospice, right? Don't estate planning lawyers hang around nursing homes looking for dying people who need wills? I'm young, healthy and make big money - what do I need with planning for incapacity, I'll do that when I'm old. What does it take for an otherwise intelligent, caring and responsible person to call an estate planning lawyer to get a will drafted and their affairs in order?

Well, I just came back from my summer vacation (in Alaska and Seattle) using the disgrace that is our national air travel system. Despite my conscious person knowing that the cab ride to the airport was many times more dangerous than the metal tube hurtling through the air at 600 miles an hour, I knew somewhere within me that at any time I could become dust. As a rule I travel with my immediate family all together, yet I know others that always separate their children and spouses on the theory that 'at least one of us will survive.' Statistically I don't know if they're better off or not.

In the months after 9/11 I saw a huge influx of new estate planning clients, many of whom never had done any estate planning of any kind. These were people in their 50's and 60's that had never had a will let alone an asset protection or liability protection plan in place for their families or their businesses. They had just been too busy to get their affairs in order apparently. It took the realization that they could have been on those planes or they could have been at Windows on the World having a coffee and Danish. From discussions with colleagues in New York City many new high net worth estate planning clients came in who admitted that previously they thought themselves invincible, immortal or just plain luckier than those poor slobs that become incapacitated at a young age or die leaving their families in dire straits. It couldn't happen to them.

Every day we see disasters, car accidents, epidemics, crimes that destroy lives and cause untold distress to whole families. I am proud to provide at least some measure of peace of mind to those that seek protection, or at least preparation, for the worst that this world has to offer. You would think that with the unending flow of misery leading our headlines that estate planning lawyers would be beating off the business with a stick - but rather, in my experience, people cower and convince themselves that it is always someone else therefore they need not take responsibility for their own situations.

I have filing cabinets full of this flawed reasoning, and the files are labeled with such terms as probate, guardianship, bankruptcy, litigation. Do yourself a favor and get some estate planning done. It need not be expensive. It need not take a lot of your precious time. And it doesn't make you look weak - on the contrary it shows that you are strong enough to acknowledge your own mortality, which as you've seen before in this blog is really one of the few things that distinguishes humans from all other life forms on Earth. And yes, the cobbler's kids have shoes.

Probate - Where There's a Will, There's a Way - to the Massachusetts Probate Court!

I have been asked over and again by my blog readers to give a simple outline of what needs to be done upon someone's death. So, because it is both a popular subject and really something that everyone will need to address in one manner or another, here goes.

In Massachusetts, probate is the process by which a deceased person's property, known as the "estate," is passed to his or her heirs and legatees (people named in the will). The entire process, supervised by the Massachusetts probate court, usually takes a little longer than a year. However, substantial distributions from the estate can ordinarily be made in the interim so long estate tax and creditor obligations can be determined with some degree of certainty. The emotional trauma brought on by the death of a close family member often is accompanied by bewilderment about the financial and legal steps the survivors must take. The spouse who passed away may have handled all of the couple's finances. Or perhaps a child must begin taking care of probating an estate about which he or she knows little. And this task may come on top of commitments to family and work that can't be set aside. Finally, the estate itself may be in disarray or scattered among many accounts, which is not unusual with a generation that saw banks collapse during the Depression.

Here we set out the steps the surviving family members should take. These responsibilities ultimately fall on whoever was appointed executor or personal representative in the deceased family member's will. Matters can be a bit more complicated in the absence of a will, because it may not be clear who has the responsibility of carrying out these steps.

First, secure the tangible property. This means anything you can touch, such as silverware, dishes, furniture, or artwork. You will need to determine accurate values of each piece of property, which may require appraisals, and then distribute the property as the deceased directed. If property is passed around to family members before you have the opportunity to take an inventory, this will become a difficult, if not impossible, task. Of course, this does not apply to gifts the deceased may have made during life, which will not be part of his or her estate.

Second, take your time. GRIEVE. You do not need to take any other steps immediately. While bills do need to be paid, they can wait a month or two without adverse repercussions. It's more important that you and your family have time to grieve. Financial matters can wait. (One exception: Social Security should be notified within a month of death. If checks are issued following death, you could be in for a battle. For more on Social Security's death procedures, click on http://www.ssa.gov/pubs/deathbenefits.htm)

When you're ready, but not a day sooner, give me or another Massachusetts probate lawyer a call to review the steps necessary to administer the deceased's estate. Bring as much information as possible about finances, taxes and debts. Don't worry about putting the papers in order first; as full service probate lawyers, we have experience in organizing and understanding confusing financial statements. The exact rules of Massachusetts estate administration differ are complex, so it is best to speak with a probate lawyer. In general, they include the following steps: 1. Filing the will and petition at the Massachusetts probate court in order to be appointed executor or personal representative. In the absence of a will, heirs must petition the court to be appointed "administrator" of the estate. 2. Marshaling, or collecting, the assets. This means that you have to find out everything the deceased owned. You need to file a list, known as an "inventory," with the probate court. It's generally best to consolidate all the estate funds to the extent possible. Bills and bequests should be paid from a single checking account; our law firm would establish and help you administer this account, so that you can keep track of all expenditures. 3. Paying bills and taxes. If an Massachusetts (or Federal) estate tax return is needed---generally if the estate exceeds $1 million in value---it must be filed within nine months of the date of death. If you miss this deadline and the estate is taxable, severe penalties and interest may apply. If you do not have all the information available in time, you can file for an extension and pay your best estimate of the tax due. 4. Filing tax returns. You must also file a final income tax return for the decedent and, if the estate holds any assets and earns interest or dividends, an income tax return for the estate. If the estate does earn income during the administration process, it will have to obtain its own tax identification number in order to keep track of such earnings. Our law firm has a CPA on retainer to make all of this simple and easy for our probate clients. 5. Distributing property to the heirs and legatees. Generally, executors do not pay out all of the estate assets until the period runs out for creditors to make claims, which in Massachusetts is a year after the date of death. But, in many cases, once the executor understands the estate and the likely claims, he or she can distribute most of the assets, retaining a reserve for unanticipated claims and the costs of closing out the estate. 6. Filing a final account. The executor must file an account with the Massachusetts probate court listing any income to the estate since the date of death and all expenses and estate distributions.

Once the court approves this final account, the executor can distribute whatever is left in the closing reserve, and finish his or her work. Some of these steps can be eliminated by avoiding probate through proper estate planning and through the use of trusts. Whoever is left in charge still has to pay all debts, file tax returns, and distribute the property to the rightful heirs. You can make it easier for your heirs by keeping good records of your assets and liabilities. This will shorten the process and simplify things for your probate lawyer (thank you for that, by the way).

Making it Simple - Wills, Probate, Power of Attorney

The knowledge that we will eventually die is one of the things that seems to distinguish humans from other living beings. At the same time, no one likes to dwell on the prospect of his or her own death. But if you postpone planning for your demise until it is too late, you run the risk that your intended beneficiaries -- those you love the most -- may not receive what you would want them to receive whether due to extra administration costs, unnecessary taxes or squabbling among your heirs.

This is why estate planning is so important, no matter how small your estate may be. It allows you, while you are still living, to ensure that your property will go to the people you want, in the way you want, and when you want. It permits you to save as much as possible on taxes, court costs and attorneys' fees; and it affords the comfort that your loved ones can mourn your loss without being simultaneously burdened with unnecessary red tape and financial confusion.

All estate plans should include, at minimum, two important estate planning instruments: a durable power of attorney and a will. The first is for managing your property during your life, in case you are ever unable to do so yourself. The second is for the management and distribution of your property after death. In addition, more and more, Americans also are using revocable (or "living") trusts to avoid probate and to manage their estates both during their lives and after they're gone.

Gosselin Theory of Relativity

 

Practicing in the area of probate law in Massachusetts exposes me to so many good people. Well, most all of my clients and their families are good. It's their relatives that cause all the problems. Over several years of practice I have developed a set of baseline rules for dealing with people in probate cases; I like to call it the Gosselin Theory of Relativity. It boils down to this "friends for pleasure, strangers for business and relatives for no good reason at all." Let me share with you some true to life stories (with the names changed to protect the innocent).

Many years back I had written the estate plan (will and trust) of a then elderly woman of substantial means in the area North of Boston. "Mrs. Jones" had two children. "Elsa" was a loving daughter. She visited Mrs. Jones often and was her confidante and companion as Mrs. Jones' health declined. Elsa was more or less the model daughter. "Aurelius" was a greedy, lying, conniving germ of a man that was born to Mrs. Jones but took a wrong turn on the way out of the nursery. Mrs. Jones only saw him when he was on the lam or looking for a "loan." She never turned him away, but had a plan for him at her death. You see, her estate planning made provisions for Elsa, Elsa's children, even Aurelius' children - but it left nothing to Aurelius. Mrs. Jones, as is common, asked me to keep her papers for safekeeping, only telling Elsa and Aurelius that should something happen to her that they should contact me. Aurelius lived in a Mid-Atlantic state and drove through the night to reach my office at 8:30am.

He was waiting with his car idling for me to come in to work. "Are you Mrs. Jones' lawyer? She died yesterday. She was my mother. I want to know what I'm getting in the will." I knew this day was coming. My instructions were clear from Mrs. Jones that I was to give Aurelius any and all notices required under the probate law of Massachusetts, but nothing more. "You must be Aurelius," I said like any good lawyer who only asks questions fully knowing the answer before they are spoken. "I am so sorry to hear about your mother, she was a kind and thoughtful woman. Your mother's property was held entirely in a trust, her will is of no consequence, the trust is a private document and if there is any reason to contact you in the due course of its administration I will contact you, won't you confirm your address?" I succinctly responded.

After a variety of profanity, Aurelius stomped away. Wouldn't you know that when I called Elsa to inform her that I had met Aurelius her response to me was "Mr. Gosselin, why are you sorry about mother? She is right here with me." I'll be coming back to the theme of greed over the coming weeks, it is an unfortunate necessity of being a probate lawyer. [Housekeeping: I just want to let all of you know that this blogging thing is more time consuming than I ever imagined. So, please excuse short posts or gaps of time, it's my goal to produce a new blog every 3 days or less. Also, my webmaster tells me to make sure I use "magic" words in my blog, like probate, real estate, lawyer, elder law, Massachusetts, Boston, etc.", but I promise to use these terms in their proper context and from time to time to create blogs with no words like probate, elder law, Medicaid, estate planning, Massachusetts, real estate. :)]