Elder Law: Having Faith in the Law
Despite no formal training in medicine or the gospel, I find myself as doctor and confessor on a regular basis. I hope it is because of my calming manner, rather than I'm a friend for hire.
Elderly clients speak to me about all manner of illnesses. It is important in elder law to have a sense of a client's mental and physical state. As elder law attorneys, we use these baselines to determine which general strategy or another to take with a client's estate or tax planning. We are wrong as often as we are right, when it comes to making legal decisions based on our interpretation of our client's medical conditions.
On the other hand, we are asked by clients why God has let their spouse die before them, or why their children are burdened with incapacitated elders. My personal beliefs aside, I do my best to direct the clients to the positive in their lives - the years enjoyed with their spouse, or their good fortune having children provide personal care. My answers are commonsense. I don't want to get too deeply into theological discussion - after all they came to me for legal advice.
But I can't help but wonder if maybe it is my place to counsel my clients on their faith in God - and I mean God in the broadest terms - Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Pick-your-own. These people share all of their financial information, medical information, many of their secrets and their dirty laundry with me, so I have a complete picture of them as people.
Their religious leaders, if any, probably will never know that Mrs. Smith has millions (lest they should be solicited for contributions) or that two of her three sons use crack cocaine and the last one is gay. Many religious leaders are clean-living, upstanding people for whom many elders feel unworthy sullying Sunday morning pleasantries with their shortcomings as humans. "Hello, Reverend/Imam/Rabbi, nice to see you, wonderful service."
Facing life or death situations as my elder law clients do every day, maybe I need to let God come into the room? Or at least acknowledge that faith not only in God, but in the good of human nature can solve as many legal problems as my stacks of 24lb bond paper. Elders facing declining health and impending death. What harm can it do? I am going to say a prayer with my clients when the moment strikes me, I think there is room for God in my office - there's no law against it.