Medicaid Qualification is Not Just About Money - the Nursing in Nursing Home Care

The call came like all the others, a middle aged woman looking for help in navigating the maze of rules and regulations between bringing her father from his home of many years to what he always called "the waiting room", waiting to die of course.

She explained that she and dad had been together for 43 years since her mother died in a car accident when she was just 8. Dad's spirit was so crushed that his only daughter could not consider another choice - she needed to dedicate her life to caring for her depressed father. He did work, had saved some money, paid for the house, but not much was left after paying for nurse's aides, hospital beds and special medications. The only real monetary value was in the house which had a reverse mortgage put on years ago that has eaten away the home's equity along with a rapidly declining market. The house was ordinary with yellowed walls from the years of dad's smoking two packs of cigarettes a day.

In virtually all cases we are able to establish a Medicaid asset protection plan to conserve assets for the family - and not the nursing home. But here it was quite different. You see, the daughter was terminally ill with lung cancer and COPD, despite never putting a cigarette to her lips, but her devotion to her heavy smoking father came not only with the obvious prices of missed career, romance and a family of her own, but her very health. Dad was still in reasonably good health, driving to his Knights of Colombus meetings, taking in a Red Sox game at Fenway with a close friend from time to time, even driving to Mohegan Sun and Foxwoods from time to time to let it ride.

Since the daughter can no longer care for her father's daily needs (and he has been so conditioned to be waited on hand and foot so as to be completely incapable of doing household tasks for himself), she asked me to place him in a nursing home for the rest of his life since she herself needed nursing and hospice care. As I explained on the telephone that while nursing homes can accept anyone for residency and that MassHeath (the Massachusetts Medicaid service) can provide a myriad of taxpayer paid services, her father would not be eligible because he was not sick or even incapable of caring for himself, that unless they were to private pay, there would no way for him to be admitted to a nursing home.

The quietest moment of my legal career ensued.

The point here is that Medicaid qualification requires both financial qualification, which we hear about all the time, but also medical qualification. The state has in recent months not approved long term medical qualifications, but rather limited 90 day approvals are showing up more and more often. The consequence is ongoing reviews of patients who are clearly qualified for long term care - a true waste of already limited resources. The moral of this story and similar situations is to review potential calamity before things become a crisis. The crisis in this client's situation will result in the use of all the home equity to provide in-home services and a diligent search by A Place for Mom to find an appropriate PACE Assisted Living Placement with and Aid and Attendance Veteran's benefit. Law for Life is singularly focused on the needs of elders and their families in identifying and obtaining the most cost effective and financially conservative course of action possible.

Elder Law - The House Whisperer - Or, John Gosselin is Talking to Ghosts

Over the years, I have learned elder clients are not so much disturbed by their eventual deaths as they are about the changes in their lives. I think it is true about houses, too.
Just yesterday I sat with two old sisters who lived together in the same house for their entire lives - a collective 187 years. One sister has been told she has about six months left to live, while the other's sister's memory has faded to the point that she doesn't recognize her sister anymore.
It is time for them to move to a nursing home. But leaving the home of so many years raises serious questions. Who will tend the roses, feed the birds, weed the garden? Will the new owners make the old furnace run properly?
These were their concerns. I didn't have the heart to tell them their beloved home would probably be bulldozed to make room for townhouses.
I believe houses have karma, both good and bad. Sometimes, onsite, evaluating properties for probate, I can almost hear children singing 'Happy Birthday,' and smell Grandma's garlicky tomato gravy for Sunday dinner. Sometimes I hear the voices of a bad marriage fueled by alcohol and crushing debt. Or the pain of a loved one slowly dying in the presence of family members. Or it might be the sobs of a lonely widow grieving her long lost bedfellow. Ghosts? Spirits?
If you like a home, it will like you back. My advice to first-time home buyers? Find a happy house. Spend a couple of hours enjoying tea in its living room with the lonely widow before the closing. Ask to keep a photo or a memento of the seller as a piece of goodwill.
Stay in the house as long as you can feel the good karma and it serves your needs. And when you sell that happy little house, shed a tear as you drive away.